Research tells us that the #1 determiner for mature faith growth for children is conversation with their parents about God. We all know that discussions about God with our children are important, but we all struggle doing it. Let’s look at some of the excuses given and responses to those excuses.Excuse: I don't know what to say.
Response: It is true that we may not have all the answers. However, our children are not looking for an all-knowing responder; they are looking for a parent who has wisdom and a desire to know God more and share that desire with his or her children. There are also many resources that you can use to help with the difficult questions. It is true that if we don’t live out what we suggest, they will question us. We just need to strive to learn and live a life that pleases God.
Excuse: I don't want to preach to my children and turn them off.
Response: When examined carefully, this excuse holds no weight. When your children hear and see what you believe is important, it will impact their lives and influence their decisions.
Excuse: They may have questions that I cannot answer.
Response: Your children already know that you do not have all the answers. As mentioned earlier, there are many resources that are available to help. Your children will be impressed that you feel this is important enough to spend time seeking the truth.
Excuse: I am too busy.
Response: This excuse is honest, but sad. Often we will not admit this excuse, but it is often demonstrated in our life. If this is the reason we are not spending time with our children in meaningful conversation about God, we must re-examine our priorities. Do not allow the busyness of life to push out the vital issues our children need to discuss.
Excuse: It is too late.
We can all look back and see things we wish we would have done earlier. However, starting today is better than not starting at all. You may need to apologize to your children for not speaking to them sooner, but don’t use it as an excuse to not begin now. Your children will appreciate your honesty, and you can use whatever amount of time you have left before they leave the nest.
We have a great opportunity to impact our children. Let’s spend some time sharing with them about the mighty God we love and serve.
Pastor John
